October - A New Month... A New Beginning, Hopefully

We all have expectations of those we are close to. There are times when we are hurt when people don't treat us the way we do. But how can we blame others when we are not clear ourselves about what we want from them. It's funny how we forget we're dealing with other people and just expect them to be just like us all of a sudden.

I know it's quite unfair on my part to expect people to be the way I want them to be. False hopes, accusations, assumptions cloud our vision of the perfect person we seek in others. All of us have our own flaws and we try to cover them somehow. Some of us are happy just hiding our feelings as we don’t want to confront what's right in front of us.

When we see people get on so well you sometimes wonder why you are not treated the same way or why the hell no one gives you the respect you deserve. Why do people act the way they do? Are you so insignificant that people can make promises and break them off so easily... what do I believe in such times or what I should expect makes me feel totally confused. You feel you're caught inevitably in the self- created web of emotions.

I know when I started posting a new message I made a positive start by titling it "October - A New Month... A New Beginning." But now I know you can't wait for others to make your days brighter. The world depends on how you want to see it. It may turn positive or negative on your outlook. No matter how much you might blame others how is it going to help you improve your day. Only you can change your day.

The arrival of a new month will not change things if you don’t. Like the song in Kal Ho Na Ho which features Shahrukh Khan in the first song says that every minute changes and nothing remains the same. Everything lies in your hand, so enjoy it as it comes as you never know whether you will get back the moment or not. Positiveness is fleshed out of every negative moment and emotion in life. Live every moment fully like you've never lived it before.

Even music is something like that. Songs can reflect a single moment; it can also at the same time magically change the mood you're in. I used to always tell my grandma that while listening to songs you would never realize the time flying by. Be it when you're caught in traffic or just sitting at home or even dancing at a disc. I know the logic sounds weird. But just imagine a life without music.

Imagine a situation when you’re caught in the traffic with no music and you're tense as you have to get to work. If music was there it could have soothed your nerves and soul definitely...as you would not feel irritated or quarrel with the moment you have, as you would be lost in humming your favourite song. That’s how I personally feel. But if you don't feel that way I feel you should try listening to the music on the tape instead of trying to speed. By rushing you’re only going to worsen things. If it was so important to get out early you should have but why get out late and act like a maniac. You're not only spoiling your day and your mood, but also indirectly causing discomfort for others you come across on your way to work. Quit thinking that only your world is full of troubles.

There might be people who carry a burden but don't bother to speak about it. Take time to listen to your inner self and to others. Maybe then you will find that there better things to live for than just thinking about yourself. Don't be self-centered as it only makes you depressed. Learn to live for others. If people don’t appreciate you don't be hurt. Life is like that.

People have enough problems in their life that sometimes they forget to thank others for making their day better and liveable. But that doesn't mean they don't appreciate what you do. They might remember it for life but find it hard to express it openly.

Hmmm I think I have rambled on enough. What I am trying to say is that only you can make a difference to your day. It solely depends on you. Only you can decide whether you want to start your day with a smile or frown.....Am smiling in the face of trouble....how about you?